(Sorry for the long lapse in postings...Some serious health issues needed attention!)
Saturday, January 22nd, marked the 32nd anniversary of Roe v Wade, and I have seen several web sites which have commented on it. Here’s how I feel...
One of the web sites had a very evenhanded, longish essay on the criminal implications of making abortion illegal, questioning how far we would want to go in punishing women and doctors. I am old enough to remember hearing horror stories of women who had gone to the ER because of complications from a botched abortion, being allowed to bleed to death when they would not reveal the names of their providers. I would hope that we will not return to punishment like this.
On November 8th, 2004, I posted a blog about a program I heard on SocialCrime.com, a web site that specializes in offbeat comedy. This was one of the funniest comedy routines I have ever listened to, and it was on Pro Life men! I was told very recently that this was George Carlin. His general approach was that Pro-Life men hate women, regard a fetus as important only while it is a fetus, regard the ensuing child as a societal burden until this child finally reaches the age when he/she can be a soldier, at which point he/she once more becomes important.
A pretty devastating attack-- which brings me to my next point. I wouldn’t want to accuse all Pro Life men hate women, as George Carlin suggested. But one thing is sure.
The men have been left completely out of the abortion argument. No woman gets herself pregnant. And surely every father is just as guilty as the mother of the murder involved in an abortion.
I am as anti-abortion as any Pro-Life woman I know.
I, too, would like to see the end of abortion except for health reasons.
And therefore I believe that we need to involve the men who are as responsible as any of the women for abortions since no woman becomes pregnant without the active participation of some man And men have so far been left out of the whole debate. Women who have the support of loving men do not want abortions. It is women who do not have this support who are telling us they need abortions.
If every man responsible were made to assume the twenty year financial burden of support for his child, I quite firmly believe that we would see the need for voluntary abortions disappear. And, yes, I mean even a rapist in prison who can earn some money, or a fourteen year old boy, who should have it made clear to him that not only will his future earnings be mortgaged but his parents will have to assume the immediate responsibility.
And if men cannot be persuaded to join in to pressure their sex for greater responsibility, we women should be working for a return to an approach to so-called welfare that was in place when I was a girl-- support for dependent children. If every woman left on her own knew that her community would actively support her until she was able once more to support herself and her children, I am sure we would immediately see a tremendous decrease in abortions. Indeed all working women, married or not should receive support for their dependent children when their incomes are not adequate.
For any woman in reasonably good health pregnancy immediately sends her body into a sort of high. There is a sense of excited anticipation, of wonderment that her body is making it possible for a brand new person to come into being I know that during my several pregnancies I felt better, happier, more creative, than I have ever felt at any other time in my life. .
Next to rape an abortion is the worst thing that can happen to any woman. I know from my own personal experience and from many other women’s that a natural miscarriage is devastating in its effect on a woman‘s whole being. An abortion is a deliberately induced miscarriage. .No woman would deliberately put an end to the wonderful feeling of creating and carrying life without pretty powerful reasons.